I’ve always been fascinated by etiquette. Being kind, polite and educated is something really important, especially nowadays.
The first edition of Galateo overo de’ costumi, written by Italian bishop Galeazzo Florimonte in 1558, inaugurated an ample literary essays production about this topic.
The English equivalent of the Italian term “galateo” is etiquette, a word that comes from French’s étiquette that indicates a series of rules which define the standards of education, social behavior and politeness.
Here at Style Behind, we are all very attentive to etiquette, because we strongly believe in the power of kindness, education and respect.
Here are our main rules:
- Be kind. Kindness could save the world.
- Listen before speaking and don’t interrupt when someone is talking. Enjoy the benefits of a kind and polite conversation.
- Turn off your phone (or at least put it into silent) when you are talking to someone. Same if you are at the restaurant, at the cinema, on the train or in any public place.
- Try not to use swear words, at least not in public, with kids or with elderly men and ladies.
- Always say “please” and “thank you”. Even if you are talking to your best girlfriend.
- Respect the work of waiters and salespeople. Don’t ask silly questions and don’t pretend they are at your own service. Same if you have a personal chef or a butler.
- Help others. This is not about charity, this is about solidarity and courteousness.
If you feel like knowing something more about modern days etiquette, here’s a list of essays you might like:
– The Etiquette Book: A Complete Guide to Modern Manners by Jodi R. R. Smith (2011, Sterling)
– Debrett’s New Guide to Etiquette and Modern Manners by John Morgan (1996, Debrett’s)
– Miss Manners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior by Judith Martin and Gloria Kamen (illustrator) (2005, W. W. Norton & Company)
– The Fabulous Girl’s Guide to Decorum by Kim Rizzo (2001, Broadway Books)
– A Guide to Elegance: For Every Woman Who Wants to Be Well and Properly Dressed on All Occasions by Geneviève Antoine Dariaux (2004, William Morrow -first published in 1964-)
– The Art of Civilized Conversation: A Guide to Expressing Yourself With Style and Grace by Margaret Shepherd, Sharon Hogan and Penny Carter (illustrator) (2005, Broadway Books)
– Would It Kill You to Stop Doing That: A Modern Guide to Manners by Henry Alford (2012, Twelve)
– Manners by Kate Spade, Julia Leach (editor), Ruth Peltason (editor) and Virginia Johnson (illustrator) (2004, Simon & Schuster)
What do you think about etiquette? Let us know in the comments below.
Illustration, Sara Ottavia Carolei